Little book of LOVE
I am writing this from my own experience in life. I do not expect you
to agree with what I have written. We all come from different places
and I certainly don’t presume to have all the answers, however, I feel
that it needs to be said. Each of us has had different experiences and
we build up a different view of the world as only we know it. It is
natural to challenge any thinking that may be different to what we are
accustomed to. We are creatures of habit and anything outside our
normal frame of reference is often seen as an attack on our beliefs and
values. I am as guilty as anyone else in this respect. I know that
others may not share my thoughts and may disagree with me. I certainly
do not have all the answers. I can only see things as I see them and I
hope you might have an insight into who I am.
What I am certain of is that we all have dreams. We all have needs and
wants that need to be fulfilled.
My physical father lived in a country town and sent me to live in Perth
with my mothers sister. I spent my school years in an Anglican school
and I remember the Chaplin saying to me
“Son, what ever you do, do it with a genuine LOVE for others. And no
matter what happens to you in life, the only person that can judge you
is your father in heaven”. Since then, I have come to know that our
father does not judge us. It is we that judge ourselves.
I remember when I was young I had all sorts of questions that I could
not answer. Who am I? Why am I here? What I my purpose? I had no idea.
I looked into my soul and really did not get any reasonable answers. I
had read the bible and thought Jesus was a real cool dude and tried to
live my life as he lived his. I did feel a peace in my soul and treated
others as I would like to be treated. I respected others no matter what
they thought of themselves. When things got too much I would escape to
the country where I really felt God’s presence. I cycled around
Australia and travelled to different countries experiencing different
cultures and ideas. I always wanted to find out what was over the next
hill or around the next bend. When I got there, there was always
another hill or bend. This was all very good. But there was still
something missing in my life.
There have been two books that I feel have shaped my life; The BIBLE
and “Looking Forward Through the Lifespan” By Candida Peterson. There
have been other books and ideas almost as important. The writings of
the great philosophers, science fiction authors and others have all
been full of imagination and thought. I remember exploring the inner
workings of the human body and the outer planets and solar systems when
I was growing up. My whole world was a voyage of discovery of the
physical world in which we live. Man first went to the moon, computers
were just being invented, colour TV and all the technology was just
starting. New things were happening wherever I looked. Amongst all
these new adventures was the BIBLE, it stood the test of time. It was
the one constant in this ever changing world. It showed me how to treat
others. It showed me what was right and wrong. It was my companion.
This was all very good. But there was still something missing in my
life. I was searching for something, but I had no idea what it was.
It was only when my physical father died I found the answer. My father
was a good Christian man and had a lot of LOVE in him but he could not
show it in a physical way. I knew he LOVED me and I took it for granted
as my birth right. I was with him when he died and felt him being
released to the Holy Spirit. There was no emptiness there, just a
peacefulness that came from GOD. I knew where GOD was and this
knowledge filled my heart. I also knew my mission in life was to LOVE
others as I am LOVED. GOD had given me a compassion for others less
fortunate than me, others that had been rejected by their families and
society in general. I started my new life in aged care looking after
people at the end of their physical lives.
The next 20 or so years have been a journey of discovery. There have
been good and bad times, but overall the experience has confirmed the
knowledge that without LOVE in our lives we have nothing. All human
relationships are about caring and sharing, about forgiveness and
forgiving, about accepting each other for who we are, about loving each
other as we are LOVED. All pain and suffering comes from a lack of this
basic need inside all of us.
When my physical mother died the last day of 2009 I was caught up in
all the physical responsibilities of the estate. It was about a year
and a half later that I felt the emotional loss of my mother. Not being
at her side when she passed away I carried her with me for the next 12
months. I felt devastated, alone and lost. Not having a family of my
own I became withdrawn and could not leave the house. Coming from an
Anglican background I was drawn to the Anglican Church. I met some
people full of LOVE and acceptance. This allowed the healing process to
begin. I felt the need to contact my brothers and sister and tell them
how much I LOVED them and how important they were to me. I spent time
with others I LOVED and I felt the LOVE growing inside me. I was
encouraged to return to a church that I was a part of 20 years before,
and, after a lot resistance on my part, I joined the church and got
involved. I became a part of the community ministry and immediately
felt that I had come home, and that this was where I was meant to be.
It was only when I let my mother go to our father that I felt closure
and was able to move on to another stage on my journey here on earth.
Looking back on my life I can see where GOD was and how he was
preparing me for my next stage.
My involvement with the community ministry at the church I am a part of
has given me a sense of direction and purpose. While there have been
times where I felt alone and feeling discouraged I stepped out in faith
and was rewarded with more than I expected.
Father, Son and Holy Spirit
For me the cross symbolises the vertical (our relationship with GOD)
and the horizontal (our relationships with each other) Just as you
can’t have up without down or left without right, the light without the
darkness or even good without
bad, the vertical and horizontal exist in perfect harmony with each
other. To live fulfilled lives we need to have our physical
relationships with each other as well as our spiritual relationship
with our father. Without one or the other our lives can become
disconnected and meaningless. Whatever happens in our lives there will
be both good and bad. It is
how we deal with those that make the difference. Jesus the son of GOD
shows us how to deal with the good and the bad things in our lives.
Everything comes from GOD. When we are born into this world we are
first conceived through the miracle of conception. We are a part of the
spiritual world. Our brain has all the connections already connected.
Over the next nine months in the womb, as we try to make sense of our
physical world, some connections are reinforced. We develop physical
and emotional connections to our mother who nurtures and feeds us. Our
brain tries to make sense of all the new sounds and feelings that
happen within the womb.
When we are born into the physical world we experience all sorts of new
sounds and feelings. We are dependent on our physical mother and father
for all our physical needs and learn how to deal with those new sounds
and feelings. Over a period of time our relationship with our physical
mother and father becomes more important that our spiritual
relationship with our father. We loose those connections with our
spiritual father and the physical world becomes more important.
From the above it can be seen that Jesus is not the Father, but son of
the Father. God is where everything comes from. Our Father is who we
love and serve and look for guidance. GOD sent his SON (Jesus) to earth
as his messenger and The Holy Spirit lives in us all.
God is always there regardless of whether we know it or not. We may not
acknowledge or accept him, but he is still there. We often get so bound
up in the physical world that we do not see him in our lives.
There have been a lot of different theories about a nature, power or
force that is greater than ourselves; GOD. The message of Jesus was
fairly simple. There are three central themes of LOVE, Judgement and
Forgiveness. As far as I am aware Jesus was the only person that spoke
about these matters. All human relationships contain the elements that
Jesus spoke about. This is not to say that others didn’t, however,
Jesus showed us that we are human and therefore not perfect. He also
showed us that it is OK to be human and that we make mistakes along the
way. Whatever we do there will be good and bad times, trials and
tribulations. Things never go the way we always want them to go. Jesus
has shown us that only by trust and faith in our father can we live
Jesus constantly reminds us in the Bible that he is not the father, but
his SON here on earth. Jesus never did anything himself; it was his
relationship with his father that made everything possible. It is only
by faith in our father, through his SON (Jesus) that eternal life is
possible. Just as our physical father may give us authority to act in
his name (as attorney or representative) God gave his son Jesus
authority to act in his name here on earth. God also gives us authority
through Jesus to act in his name. After all, aren’t we all his children
(The Greatest Commandment.html
The Greatest Commandment has three parts:
1) Love God
2) Love thyself
3) Love others
To LOVE GOD is to LOVE life
itself, because we are of GOD.
LOVE the Lord is to LOVE what he has given us. To have a joy in life is
to appericiate what we have been given. God gave us the heavens and the
stars to be amazed by his glory. His signs and wonders are everywhere
to be seen, if we stop to have a look. There are a lot of people in the
world that are bitter and twisted. How often do we take for granted
what GOD has already given us? How often do things for our own glory
instead of our fathers glory?
To LOVE our neighbour as ourself is to LOVE, honour and respect each
other as we LOVE, honour and respect ourselves. To do unto others as we
would have them do unto us. This is not vanity or pride, but a LOVE and
peace in our heart and a good will to ourselves and others.
Matthew 22 36-40 tells us that it is not enough just to LOVE our
father. It is only by LOVING others as we LOVE ourselves, with a
genuine LOVE that comes from
our father, that we can live fulfilled lives. How can we LOVE others if
we can not LOVE ourselves? We get angry and upset with others. We
become bitter and unforgiving. Sometimes all it needs is to say "Im
sorry about that. Ive had a bad day. Please forgive me.".
There has been a lot written about LOVE. But what is it?
LOVE is a strong
desire to please or be accepted by another. We refer to different types
of LOVE. While each type is used in a
different context, the concept of love is the same. A lot of people
confuse other feelings as LOVE. Desire, greed, envy, craving,
obsession, gluttony, control over others, dependency on another are all
and behaviours that we attach the label of LOVE. The need to LOVE and
be LOVED is written in our DNA. Our father gave this to us as our
inheritance to give freely to others.
There has been a lot written about
LOVE. But what is it?
As far as I know there is only one definition of love in the bible.
Love has 8 parts,
Patient: not jumping to conclusions or
making rash decisions,
Modest: unassuming, humble,
Giving: not jealous or envious,
Forgiving: non demanding or irritable, not holding past transgressions
None judging: accepting others for who they are,
Truthfulness: Honest to ourselves and others,
Enduring: Faithfull, hopeful, never ending.
How can we be patient with others if we are not patient with ourselves?
How can we be kind to others if we are not kind to ourselves?
How can we be humble to others if we are not humble to ourselves?
How can we be giving to others if we are not giving to ourselves?
How can we be forgive others if we are not forgive ourselves?
How can we none judging to others if we are not none judging to
How can we be true to others if we are not true to ourselves?
How can we be faithfull to others if we are not faithfull to ourselves?
A lot of people confuse other feelings as LOVE. Pride, desire, greed,
craving, obsession, gluttony, control over others, dependency on
another, and even sex are all feelings and behaviours that we attach
the label of LOVE to. Our sinful nature often gets in our way.
Impatience, envey, pride, unforgiveness, dishonesty and giving up are
all feelings and emotions that may control our lives. How often do we
put conditions on our love for others? How often do we
feel let down because we have not been recognised for what we have
given. How often have we felt like a “mushroom”, or left out of
something? How often have we been the cause of some hurt or damage
because we have felt unloved?
Where is the LOVE in our lives? Where is the hate in our lives? Do we
not feel these emotions? Where do these emotions come from? Are we not
human if we do not LOVE or hate? Whatever we believe or understand,
whatever theories we have about life, however we treat others, or are
treated by others, we still have feelings, and needs that need to be
met both in the physical and the spiritual world. We laugh, we cry, we
are envious and proud, we look to and compare ourselves to others. We
search for LOVE in this physical world. We all have this most basic
need inside of us. Some look for this LOVE in the physical world but
all they find is false promises and emptiness.
We LOVE our spouses. We LOVE our children and parents. We LOVE our pets
… etc. LOVE is so much a part of all doctrines and cults that it is
taken for granted. But where does this LOVE come from?
Without LOVE there is no hope. There is only lonleness, emptyness and
Love gives us hope and a reason for living. LOVE is security. LOVE
endures in this everchanging world. LOVE can also be fragile if it is
not well grounded. LOVE can be twisted and used against us if we we
look for LOVE in the wrong places. LOVE is not found in the physical
LOVE does not come from outside, but from inside. It is the genuine
LOVE for others that comes from GOD the Father, Son and Holy Spirit
that makes us whole. GOD does not judge. GOD does not destroy. GOD is
patient. GOD accepts us for who we are. GOD LOVES us.
God made us in his own image. God is LOVE and the Holy Spirit lives in
How can we hurt another person if we have a genuine LOVE for them?
After all didn’t Jesus remind us that while it is OK to LOVE our
brothers we are no better than anyone else? It is only when we have a
genuine LOVE our enemies that we really know our fathers LOVE.
Does a husband LOVE his wife? Does a wife LOVE her husband? Does a
father/mother LOVE his/her children? Does a child LOVE his/her parents?
But how do we show our love to others? Unfortunately there are a lot of
people who have not experienced this genuine LOVE that comes from our
father. Love to some is being abused physically or mentally. Love to
others is being locked away or abandoned, or a complete lack of
empathy, respect or interest. We can also give to another any amount of
physical bits and pieces, but if we have not given them LOVE we have
given them nothing.
A lot of people talk about “Tough Love”. Jesus never mentioned this. On
the contrary, Jesus spoke about patience and kindness. He spoke about
going the extra mile if they asked for an inch. He talked about turning
the other cheek. Jesus did rebuke others out of LOVE. He got very angry
when somebody did something out of self righteousness or greed. He
certainly reminded us who was in charge.
Tough LOVE has two dimensions. To LOVE our enemies can be very hard
sometimes. Jesus asks us to make some tough decisions about how we
should be living our lives. Jesus tells us to LOVE our enemies, to give
to others without seeking reward. Jesus asks us to die to self and
freely give to others. This can be really tough to do sometimes,
especially when we have been hurt. To correct another person’s thoughts
or behaviours about what is right and wrong can also be tough for a
person to do. How do we really know what to do in a situation? Do we
admonish and judge the person out of self righteousness of self
interest? How often do we jump to a conclusion based on our own
experience or some preconceived ideas about the person?
with our father
First of all it needs to be said that our father’s LOVE for us is
unconditional. He never leaves us. Jesus shows us that without our
relationships with our father AND each other (LOVE GOD and LOVE others
as we are LOVED) we are nothing.
Our relationships with others reflect our relationship with our father.
If we LOVE our father we LOVE others. If we LOVE others we LOVE our
father. But how often do we complicate this idea. We change and modify
this idea to suit the circumstances or the situation at the time. How
often do we run on auto pilot and treat others as we have been treated,
or see others as others see them? But how often do we LOVE others as
GOD LOVES them? Not very often I suspect.
It is our relationship with our father that changes, not our father’s
relationship with us. Our father has made a commitment to us. Our
father will always honour that commitment. It is our commitment to our
father that is in question. Just as we may not honour our commitment to
each other, we may not honour our commitment to our father. This
happens when our physical wants become more important than our
spiritual needs. Our father knows this and allows us to make our
mistakes that we may learn from those mistakes in the knowledge that we
really can not do anything without him.
How often do we become so caught up or distracted with the world around
us, our work or something that has happened to us. We can not spend
time with the people we LOVE. We may make a commitment to another
person, and through some event or greater need we find that we can not
honour that commitment. What do we do? I can not answer that question.
We need to ask our father what to do.
There are four broad types of relationships we have with our father and
are times in our life where we
are totally dependent on our father. In times of emotional crisis,
turmoil and confusion. When the world no longer behaves as we
understand it. We feel powerless and turn to others to fulfil this
basic need of LOVE. If we don’t get this LOVE our heart turns hard and
bitter. We turn to substitutes in the physical world to fill this void
in our life.
A dependent relationship with GOD is
not ideal. This can lead to all sorts of emotional problems in being
unable to cope in the real world. People can become withdrawn and
isolated. GOD never intended us to live alone.
of us live our lives at peace
with the world. Things happen as we expect them to happen. Small issues
are dealt with and there are no major problems with the world as we
know it. How often do we take our father for granted? Things go the way
we expect. We take the credit for the good things and expect others to
acknowledge our success or blame others for our misfortune. We may say
to our father “Its ok dad, I can look after myself”. And dad says
“That’s ok son I am always there for you, but just remember – What you
sow will be what you reap”.
Some refuse to acknowledge the
existence of GOD and get caught up with all sorts of other stuff out
there. Some people look to science to find answers in the physical
world but this only leads to more questions. Some believe that they are
in control of their own destiny and they are right. But GOD is still
we are in a new situation that
we do not understand or unfamiliar with, we depend on our father to
show us the way. Our father relies on us to serve him and we rely on
him to show us the way.
How often have we been in a situation
where we really don’t know what to do? Do we rely on intuition or
feelings? Do we just stop and wait? Do we run on “Auto Pilot”? Do we
just hang in there without really knowing what we are doing? Do we look
for guidance from others? Do we just bluff our way through? What do we
A co-dependent relationship is
important in learning from our mistakes. We fall down and our father
picks us up. This is no different to learning how to ride a bicycle or
drive a car. We have someone with us that is more experienced and can
faith and trust in our father, as
well as our own experience allows us to step out boldly in the
knowledge that our father is there when we stumble. We bring our own
skills and knowledge and our father brings the faith and courage. We
both bring something into the relationship.
This relationship allows us to
develop the special gift that our father has given us. That special
gift may be prophecy, or healing, or music, or art or any other talent.
It is only when we let our father
into our life and serve him, that our life becomes fulfilled. To LOVE
and serve our father is to LOVE and serve each other.
These four types of relationships are a normal part of any
relationship. Some may see them as seasons or stages or anything else.
We naturally move from one to another according to a situation, mood,
circumstance or event that has happened or is happening in our life at
a particular moment. We also draw on our past experiences to cope with
what is happening at the moment. It is human nature to try to control a
situation, and when we can’t … “All hell breaks loose”.
There is only one thing that is certain, that our physical bodies are
only in this physical world for a short amount of time. What ever
happens to our spiritual entities is determined by what we believe.
father really does provide for our needs.
Even before we understand what we need our father knows. He knows us
than we do, because he LOVES us. He is in us all, underneath all the
suffering. After all, didn’t we come from him in the first place? Our
so much a part of our lives that we seldom know that he is there and
for granted. How often do we acknowledge ourselves or others rather
father? How often do we thank our father for what he has given us? How
we thank our father for the LOVE in our lives? How many times has our
already blessed us and we have not thanked him? How many times have you
others in your life how important they are to you? How many times have
LOVED others as our father LOVES them?
often confuse greed with need. Do we really want 3 or 4 houses when we
can only live in one? Do we really need that extra serving when one is
We often pray to our father for what we want rather than what we need.
father knows what’s best for us and will often say “NO”. However, if we
him he will answer our prayer because he LOVES us. But how many times
felt “Oh, I didn’t expect that”, or “I didn’t want that”? How many
the prayer caused more grief in your life than its worth? A young child
an ice-cream shop and says to dad "I want an ice-cream". Dad knows
that the son has already had enough to eat and says "No! You have
had enough". Dad knows that the child does not need the ice-cream.
some persistence from the child dad finally gives in and gives the
double scoop ice-cream with everything in the knowledge that the child
be well after eating it. Sure enough the child is sick and wishes he
have the ice-cream. Isn’t our spiritual father the same?
We are human and our physical needs often get in the way of our
spiritual needs. Often in life we do things to each other out of
ignorance, revenge, or even vindictiveness. How often do we judge
ourselves and others according to our own standards?
Our father (through Jesus) never judges us, so who gave us authority to
judge ourselves or each other? I believe it is we that will judge
ourselves, and others. We will decide our own destiny when the door
opens to salvation. Jesus reminds us that we reap what we sow. If we
feed and nurture the seeds of LOVE we feed and nurture the Holy Spirit
inside of us and others. If we heap hate and unforgiveness on us and
others we poison the Holy Spirit inside of us and others.
Beware of self righteousness for this rarely comes from GOD
LOVING others comes from LOVING our father. That LOVE is unconditional,
which means that our LOVE for others should be unconditional. By LOVING
others we accept them for who they are. How often do we try to change
others? A tree (for example) is perfect
in gods image, but how often do we look at a branch or a leaf and say
to ourselves “Oh, I don’t like that branch there, it looks out of
place”, or “that dead leaf needs to be removed”. There is a good chance
we will end up with nothing left if we try hard enough. The more we try
to make the tree perfect in our own image, the less perfect it becomes
in gods image. It is only through forgiveness and healing that we can
see ourselves and others as our father sees us and them.
We may call ourselves or others a Catholic, Protestant, Jew, Atheist,
Muslim, Agnostic, New Age, Scientologist, or any other label, but our
father knows where our heart is. Does it really matter what we call
ourselves or how we behave? What matters is a genuine LOVE for
others that comes from our father. I have met a few non-Christians that
have more LOVE in them than Christians.
When we LOVE others we accept the good and the bad. GOD made us
different. We have all come from different places and have different
views and attitudes. Of course there are going to be conflicts in
personalities. Seeing others in LOVE allows us to overcome those
differences and see them as GOD sees them. We need to remember that GOD
LOVES them, so shouldn’t we LOVE them also.
The Good Samaritan
This story shows how we should live our lives. The Samaritan
had more compassion and LOVE for another person than the priest or the
Levite. Jesus does not mention what happened to the man or the
inkeeper, however, it is safe to assume that they were both touched by
the LOVE showen by the Samaritan. The bible talks about the day of
Judgement, when we are
judged according to our lives here on earth. If we live our lives based
outcome we miss the whole point of the BIBLE and there is a danger that
we may put it before our LOVE for
we LOVE others because we will be judged (we put conditions on our
righteousness). GOD does not want that. Are we no better than the
put conditions on gods LOVE.
It is so easy to get caught up in this physical world and forget where
we came from. Anything that we covet in the physical world becomes an
obsession or an addiction. The scriptures talk about coveting another
man’s possessions. However this is only half the story. If any object
or symbol becomes more important than our relationship with god or each
other, that object or symbol becomes a false idol. A good example is
the Christian Cross or fish. If we put this object or symbol above our
LOVE for others, we also put it above our LOVE for our father. If we
put ourselves above our LOVE for others, we also put ourselves above
our LOVE for our father. Sometimes we put our religion above GOD. How
often do we get so caught up in the beliefs and practices of a
particular faith or discipline that we judge others according to those
beliefs and practices? The bible can be such a divisive thing if we use
a particular scripture to judge ourselves or others. If we put the
scriptures above our LOVE for others, we also put the scriptures above
our LOVE for our father. The same can be said for any other object or
symbol such as a picture of a devil or dragon, a doll, an ice cream, a
bar of chocolate, or even a family pet.
Do we really LOVE that chocolate, that movie or new sports car? Do we
really make LOVE?
The bible tells us that the unforgivable SIN is to sit on the fence.
Our father is pleased if we LOVE and serve him. Our father is also OK
if a person is against him, after all he did give us the choice. What
drives our father nuts is when we can not make up our mind if we are
for or against him. Fortunately this won’t happen. “Why?” you may ask.
Well, the answer is not really straight forward and needs to be
understood in the context of our relationships with each other.
If I give my son a car, it is because I LOVE him. It is my inheritance
to him. I trust that he will use it wisely in my name. However, he has
the choice to it how he sees fit. He may use it with respect and
kindness to others, or, he may use it to destroy others. If he uses it
with a genuine LOVE for others, then he has my blessing. If he uses it
to hurt others, then I feel a great sadness and loss. This does not
mean that I do not LOVE him. I will always LOVE him and only hope that
he finds in his heart to LOVE others as he is LOVED.
It is not possible to sin against our father. He has left the door open
through Jesus Christ. We all have a special relationship with our
father (whether we chose to accept it or not is our choice). It is our
relationships with each other that creates the problems. Sin, as we
know it, is against each other rather than against our father. Anything
we do to each other can either build up or destroy this relationship
with our father. Even the smallest word or act against another is like
the straw that broke the camels back. A lack of respect or thought
against another can be enough to bury that person’s relationship with
our father deep inside. Most of the time we really don’t know what we
are doing. Most of the time we do this to each other unintentionally,
in ignorance or as a self defence mechanism. Things like Peer Pressure
and the need to conform to be a part of a group often make us do things
to others that we otherwise really wouldn’t do. We also learn behaviour
from our parents, brothers and sisters and other important people in
our lives, and, how we are treated by others.
Growing up is never an easy task. There are too many distractions. We
test the boundaries that others put in our lives. We see things from
our own perspective and fail to appreciate the perspective of others.
We can never see the whole, we can only see things as we see them. We
can only understand things as we understand them.
When we sin against each other we transgress our father’s law to LOVE
each other as we are LOVED. Our father has placed boundaries in our
lives. We need to respect those boundaries. Respect for others,
patience, empathy etc are those boundaries. What belongs to a person
belongs to that person. What is given in LOVE is received in LOVE. What
is given in anger is received in anger. What is given without
permission is given without LOVE. What is taken without permission is
taken without LOVE. If our heart is full of our fathers LOVE for each
other there is no room for anything else.
Sin against each other creates barriers or walls between our father and
each other. Things that happened or did not happen to us earlier in our
lives hang around until they are dealt with. We try to manage painful
experiences by blocking them away from our consciousness. These
unconscious memories act as blocks and stop the full development of the
person both spiritually and physically. People generally live their
lives in very stressful states because they unconsciously hang on to a
lot of baggage and unforgiveness. We can also become attached to
objects (animate and inanimate) as a defence against the real world. We
find security in things that can not hurt us.
How many people can say that they have not been hurt by a fellow
Christian? We all have our own ways of seeing things and
unintentionally treat others as we see them and not how GOD sees them,
or because we are having a bad day. I have heard of Churches
self-destruct because someone parked in another persons parking spot.
If we sin against another we don’t need to ask forgiveness from our
father. What we need to do is ask for
forgiveness from the person we have sinned against. If a person sins
against us we need to forgive the person in LOVE, especially if the
person is unaware of the sin. How can we be forgiven if we dont forgive
others? "And forgive us
our debts, as we forgive our debtors.
(The Lords Prayer: Matthew
6:12 King James Version (KJV)).
If I put my faith in our father then my LOVE for others is
unconditional. I can forgive others just as our father forgave them.
The act of asking forgiveness and forgiving others is a very humbling
experience. It requires an amount faith, and levels the playing field.
It recognises that while we are different, we are equal and are valued
and LOVED for our differences. Each of us is special and LOVED by our
father. Our father does not put labels on us. Our father does not judge
us. He LOVES us.
While we do have free choice, we also have obstacles that can be a real
test in life. How we deal with those obstacles is very much determined
by our own experiences in life and the others around us. Underneath all
the layers that we accumulate through out our life, we all have the
same need: to LOVE and be LOVED. Sometimes that need is buried so deep
within the pain, bitterness and loneliness that we may have, that we
can not share it with others, and look for something else to fill that
need and emptiness inside of us. We may carry a cross around with us,
some may have small crosses and some may have large crosses. Our Father
wants us to give him our burden, pain and bitterness that we may have,
and live fulfilled lives.
The world today is so self-centred. Everything is me, me, me. Jesus
asks us to die to self and to LOVE others as we are LOVED. To step out
in an act of faith and to forgive another is the most precious thing a
person can do.
Small sins are easily forgiven. But hard is it to forgive large sins
against each other. If someone takes a small amount of money and asks
forgiveness it is easy to forgive. If someone takes all a persons
wealth, or even the life of a loved one, forgiveness comes less easily
and is sometimes impossible. We talk about finding “Closure” on events
that have a negative impact on our lives. Closure is about letting go
and getting on with our lives. Often we look for something to replace
the loss as a substitute for forgiveness, that our forgiveness is
conditional on receiving some payment for the loss. We need to remember
that our father’s forgiveness is never conditional. He has already
Putting our faith in Jesus means putting our faith in our father.
Believing in Jesus means believing in our father. He has been given
authority here on earth to act as our sponsor before GOD. Anyone that
believes in the message of Jesus, by default, believes in his father.
Healing is not change. Healing is fixing or repairing what is broken.
Healing is also not replacing but allowing the spirit and body to
return to a state of completeness. Most sickness and ill health comes
from a disconnection between the Holy Spirit and the physical body that
it lives in. Most people live very stressful lives that they are not
even aware of.
My 30 or so years experience with people with high support needs has
shown me that healing is both spiritual as well as physical. I have
seen it so often where we attend to the physical needs and not the
spiritual needs of a person, that complications develop and that person
does not survive. Why is it that a person may survive a severe trauma
illness or accident and we think “No Way”? I have seen people that are
not expected to live more that a few years live on to well into old
age. I have also seen people that are expected to live into old age and
pass away quite suddenly. Why is this? I believe that people that are
not expected to live receive more attention (LOVE) than someone that is
reasonably healthy. If a person does not have strong close
relationships with others for various reasons, that person may loose
interest in life, or find something else as a substitute. Some people
don’t know what LOVE is. Some people carry so much pain and bitterness
inside of them selves that no matter what we do to them they end up
destroying themselves through that pain and bitterness.
We all have this inbuilt need to LOVE and be LOVED, however, the
inability to let go of LOVED ones that have left us or passed away also
creates lots of problems. The inability to let go creates all sorts of
blockages and barriers between ourselves and our father. We torture the
Holy Spirit inside of us. This creates a lot of stress in the body that
leads to psychological and physical problems and even death.
If we do not fulfil this basic need inside of us we look to substitutes
in the physical world. Alcohol, drugs, sex, violence, gambling and even
the scriptures are all a way to fill this need inside. We use these to
hide from the reality of our lives. We drive the Holy Spirit deep
inside of us and look to other things such as pets and other objects
that we can LOVE without being hurt, or to replace lost loves.
We also try to control others as a way to give meaning to our lives. We
learn techniques and behaviours from significant others that we find
useful in dealing with situations. These strategies become so embedded
in our psyche we no longer look to out father for guidance.
Letting go is such a huge leap of faith for some that they can not deal
with it. Letting go means dying to self. Letting go acknowledges that
we can not do things ourselves. Letting go means letting go of all the
useless baggage in our lives. Letting go is about releasing all the
evil spirits inside of us (envy, jealously, greed etc). Letting go
means giving the Holy Spirit permission to grow and prosper in our
lives. Letting go means letting our father into our lives.
Each of us has special gifts that the Holy Spirit has given us that we
use to share our fathers love. We have all these gifts inside of us but
one or more are special. Some have a gift of the arts (music, painting,
acting, languages etc). Others have a gift of healing, prophecy,
teaching, empathy etc. It is through these gifts that we serve our
father. These special gifts are also known as ministries because they
are how we minister our fathers LOVE to each other. People may refer to
these gifts as natural talents, and that is exactly what they are, they
all come from our father.
It is interesting that when a person serves and acknowledges our father
the gift is called a “Spiritual Gift”. If the person does not
acknowledge our father the gift is called a talent. Prediction is
“Prophecy” if our father is acknowledged and “Fortunetelling” if our
father is not acknowledged. A healer is called a “Spiritual Healer” if
our father is acknowledged in the healing and a “Faith Healer” if our
father is not acknowledged. Interesting that faith is involved in both
types of healing. In both types of healing, the healing is not
guaranteed. This happens in all the other ministries where the gift is
called one thing where our father is acknowledged and something else
where our father is not.
How often does someone say something, or we hear something on the radio
or TV that really touches our heart or spirit? How often do we really
feel that that person is talking to me? We might be involved in
something with the radio on in the background and all of a sudden it
seems that someone turns up the volume to listen to a song or a
message? Alternatively we may see or here something that makes the
blood curdle and we feel revulsion and disgust. Why is this? How often
do we have an intuition of feeling about a person or situation? Where
do these feelings come from? The Holy Spirit can work in all sorts of
ways, if we let it. Even through non believers.
Any one can throw a dart or hit a golf ball with a golf stick. But it
requires skill, dedication and training to hit the bullseye or get a
hole in one. Using our father’s gifts is no different. We need to have
an understanding well grounded in our relationship with our father. Our
mind needs to be focused on the goal. If our mind is unfocused or
distracted anything can happen. If we use the gift for personal gain or
glory we are not serving our father and this leads to all sorts of
How often have you heard a piece of music or a song that really touches
the heart? It moves the spirit inside. A person can learn all the
technical stuff about cords and scales but it is only when the person
plays or sings with a passion that comes from inside that the music
comes alive. The bible is no different. We can read it as a technical
manual and learn all the scriptures by rote but it is only when we live
the bible that it comes alive in us.
Jesus did not live his life alone and neither should we. We are not
designed to be alone. We need companionship and company. We need to
share, to LOVE and be LOVED. Fellowship is supporting each other in
times of need. Fellowship is sharing company with likeminded.
Fellowship is giving. Fellowship is also a relationship with our
father, through Jesus, who provides all our needs. Just as Jesus was
the son of GOD, so are we through the body of Christ. Fellowship
provides those basic spiritual needs with our father and each other.
Fellowship is also about accepting each other for who we are, warts and
If fellowship is our spiritual relationships with each other then
community is our physical relationships with each other.
Communities are as varied and individual as its members. Most people
belong to two or more communities. Family, education, business, work,
sport, religion, culture all involve communities that we take for
granted as a normal part of our lives. They seem to be a part of the
background. It’s only when things are not going the way that we want,
that we take any notice of them.
Most people think of communities as a place or setting, or a suburb or
city that they live in. Communities are much more that that. They are
the very essence of how we live and socialise with others. We have our
own personal communities, the communities that we are a part of and the
communities that we associate with.
Communities are the building blocks that allow us to make sense of the
world in which we live, participate and share experiences. They provide
a sense of identity and purpose, a sense of being a part of and
Each community that we are a part of has a particular role or ministry
that we use to minister our fathers LOVE to each other. The prophetic
ministry provides prophecy. The healing ministry provides healing. The
leadership ministry provides leadership etc. Together, these
communities are the body of Christ. They provide the means to serve our
father here on earth.
Communities are about caring and sharing.
The idea of "community" probably came about where people gathered
around a common area for their mutual benefit. Sharing a language,
customs, ideas, skills, goods and services, or protection from enemies
would be some of the advantages in being a part of a group.
Over the years the idea of community has changed to accommodate
different things. While different definitions mean different things,
the idea is the same; that a group comes together or lives together to
share something that is of value to the members of that community.
We see these communities in everyday life. Our families, where we work,
play or learn, where we go shopping, down to the pub or to the hospital
all involve communities that we participate in. While some are
important and others are not so important to us they are taken for
granted as a normal part of life.
A home group is a place where Fellowship and Community comes together.
The Church is a place where we all come together for praise and
worship. Different people come together for different needs. The
service is a way for people to meet others and participate in the
activities of the Church. A person may have a particular need that
needs to be met, and each ministry of the Church is designed to fulfil
that need. Home groups are an important part of a church where
fellowship is on a more personal level. Home groups are a place where
people come together in trust and confidence. Home groups are also
individual in that they are designed to fulfil a particular need. Some
are study groups, some are praise and worship groups, some are social
groups, some are focus groups (evangelist, community help, healing
etc). They all have different flavours. What is important is the
relationship of the home groups with the Church that they are a part
of. It may take a while to find a home group that meets a particular
Churches are getting bigger and bigger these days. This is not a bad
thing as long as the needs of the members are being met. The bigger the
church, the more important the home groups become in fulfilling the
needs of the members. Mega churches loose the sense of fellowship with
each other. A church is like a well oiled machine. Things need to be
done in a set order at set times so that everybody knows what needs to
be done. People know what to expect. The service starts at the same
time and has the same formula so the members can plan their activities
for the day. A congregation of 1000 or more can not hope to be all
things to all members. A person is invited to a church or is drawn to a
church for a need. If that need is not met they may become disappointed
or disillusioned. Home groups become the focal point of the church.
journey in life
The bible talks about a kingdom of heaven and a day of judgement. We
sometimes focus so much on our own journey that we forget about the
journey of others towards that goal. While we all come from different
places and have different paths to travel. We are all trying to serve
our father. Sometimes our paths may cross others on a different path,
but we are all aiming for the same destination. Yes there will be a day
of judgment, but we still need to show respect and kindness (LOVE) to
others along the way. We may plan a road trip from Perth to Sydney. We
have the destination fixed in our mind. This does not mean that we can
ignore all the others that cross our path. We need to prepare for each
stage of our journey. We need to be aware of others using the road and
be mindful that they are on different paths. We have a choice to just
bulldoze our way through, or treat others with respect and kindness
along the way. There will be others that do not share the same
destination and that is not really important. What matters is how we
treat others along the way. Life is full
of traffic lights, stop signs, no entries, single lanes, highways etc,
etc. Some stages in the journey are difficult and other stages are
easy. We need to prepare for each stage before we get to it so we don’t
get into trouble. We need the right supplies and equipment. We also
rely on others along the way to help us if we get into trouble, and
should be prepared to help others if they get into trouble.
Jesus tells us that there have been and WILL be good and bad times in
our lives, and it is how we deal with those good and bad times that
makes the difference.